Our maturity is always one leg below every new experience we encounter in life. The very purpose of life’s experience is to give us that maturity. However, with every experience not only does the bar of our maturity get raised a little, but even the level of challenges we face gets raised.
– Mahatria Ra
And no need for mention that motherhood is a lifetime experience of challenges and solutions. Experience by experience, challenge after challenge is how life moulds mother’s maturity.
Today we have with us, Kavitha Sriram. With her natural aptitude to parenting coupled with her passion and dedication to her motherhood has made her a lovable mommy. Here she shares her thoughts exclusively with our readers.
Respect Your Child
Recently, one of my friends, was inquiring, ” My daughter is 5 years old, whenever I suggest her something she simply says, ” I Know” and stops me from speaking anything further. Did you face this situation with your son?” This made me think for a while. My son is 9 years old now. He is a single child.
My memories took me back. My son was 3 years old at that time. We just bought him a jigsaw puzzle. I told him to look at the picture and join the pieces one by one. He didn’t reply anything back to me. He simply saw the picture for a few minutes, then kept all the puzzle pieces in an order. He found out the central piece from then on simply joined all the pieces to the centre piece. Never once looking back at the picture. I kept quiet, observing everything. He took his time solving the puzzle, but sooner than I expected. This simple incident reminded me that my son had grown up. I think children grow up by doing different things (whether in a right or wrong way).There is never one right way to do a right thing. If we leave our kids to experiment then they may come out with different right ways may be better than the traditional ones. Don’t expect them to be perfect as we have never been and never will.
I think children grow up by doing different things (whether in a right or wrong way).There is never one right way to do a right thing. If we leave our kids to experiment then they may come out with different right ways may be better than the traditional ones.
One of my friends once described this incident to me. She said, once they had to go somewhere out really fast and her 4-year-old son was adamant that he will wear his shoes by himself. They had little time and the child tried for 5 minutes and couldn’t wear. He was not ready to accept any help too. The elders in the home advised simply to pick up the child and leave. The mother was really confused. Somehow she just left the place with the child. she asked me,” How will you handle this situation?” I said” I will allow the child to struggle for 2 minutes. I would sit near the child, without speaking anything to him. I will start putting a pair of shoes to my legs. My process would be so slow that the child if it sees will understand. If it is still adamant then I would praise the child for putting in such a good effort without losing patience and slightly mention the mistake he is doing in the process of putting that shoe”. Even if your child makes a mistake, don’t tell directly as it will damage their self-confidence. An improvement could be suggested in a friendly manner.
Now the relationship with my son is such that we don’t give advice to each other until asked for and never take each other for granted. Please respect your children and their feelings irrespective of their age. Who knows, they could be a much better version of us. Happy supportive parenting.
Kavitha Sriram, loves writing parenting stories. She loves story telling, the ancient art in India. She writes stories to help parents solve their unspoken problems. Her stories are part true stories and part fiction. She believes in Positive Parenting and hopes her each story helps the parents take one step ahead being a better parent. To read more stories, subscribe to her blog. Your subscription brings her latest stories to your inbox. Do it now. Don’t miss the stories.
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