” Why your Amma is staying alone??? “, a haunting question always thrown on my face by many in my neighbourhood. But those who know me and my amma are having the answer for this. The regular readers of my blog know that I have two special sections in my blog for – the one who gave birth to me and the other one who I gave birth to – Amma’s Rangolis and Crafts & Mithu’s Section.
She always quote this ” If your compassion doesn’t include yourself then it is incomplete”.
The answer to that haunting question is she is staying alone purposefully. The 7 most appealing reasons behind this are :
At my home we are four. So Amma loves to be in her own nest which provide her the needed personal space and independency. By staying independent, she keeps herself always busy and finds no time for blabbering or laziness. Mithu loves to spend his play times at her house during every holiday. Always Grandmas’ houses are loaded with tons and tons of love.This is much-needed for the kids whose mom stay at their mom’s native place.
She feels more confident by doing all the chores by herself. She’s able to make decisions, inspire younger generations and be a role model. By doing all her works independently, her brain functions normally in spite of her age and worries.
She’s very creative. She’s more interested in making art from waste. She’s going for Singing Class, Glass Painting Class & Macromi Thread Stiching Class. She finds more time for her passion. I’m really proud to share here that her singing group has released an Audio CD, where my amma has sung two solo songs.
4. Quality Time
She will never remain idle. Her day starts at 4.30 am daily. She has a beautiful garden at her house. She draws awesomely beautiful kolams ( dotted drawings ) everyday. In fact she have a fan club for her kolams. She always insists ” Kolam is my Yoga “. Spending quality time provides her happiness and joy which cannot be given by other sources.
I feel extremely proud when someone tells me that spending 10 minutes with my amma relax them from stress. Actually amma is a mentor, counsellor and motivator for many in our colony. She has many friendship circles of different age, interests & hobbies. She also never fails to go on regular outings and temple visits with her friends circle. So really she’s living her life in the present moment.
6. Physically and Mentally Fit
She’s 64 by age and 16 by heart. She’s physically fit and active in spite her diabetes. She maintains her physical and mental health well. She inspires many to wear SMILE as their ornament. I could never remember a moment of complaining in her life even at some difficult and tough times. I hope that’s the positive spirit I love to inherit from her. And I’m sure compassion could be inherited. Always she spreads positive vibes in and around her.
7. Growing Younger
She’s a curious learner. She asked me to teach about Facebook, Gmail and WhatsApp. But I was not that much patient or that much talented to teach her. So she learnt from Mithu within 3 days. And now she’s having fb and Gmail accounts, using whatsapp more effectively. She has decided to join for Hindi class from next month. She’s also nagging me to help her in starting her own blog. 😛
Her day starts at 4.30 am and ends at 10 pm. From last 3 years, she was forced to come to our house during nights. She will come to our house by 7.45 pm after her classes and have dinner together with me and Mithu. And will leave by 5 am, the next morning. This is her busy schedule for more than a decade. And I pray God to keep her healthy and happy as always.
” Old age is not a curse. Allow them to grow younger. Allow them to explore independently. Allow them to be happier than anytime.”
P. S : This post is only to boost the confidence of our parents and elders.
Do you allow personal space for your elders, Are your parents growing younger or do you love to add your opinions, then I’m all ears. Also feel free to share this post on social media.
” If your compassion doesn’t include yourself then it is incomplete”.
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